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Getting Your “Kids” Ready for College: Teaching Your Young Adult How to “Think Safe”

4 May

By Carla M. Thompson author of The Busy Woman’s Pocket Guide to Safety

So, your baby is leaving you; don’t freak out.  You are not losing a child, you are releasing an adult into the world.  I am going to give you some on how to prepare your high school graduate for the real world:

  1.  Parents, the first tip is for you.  You have to remember that your “kids” aren’t “kids” anymore, they are young adults.  Giving them a list of do’s and don’ts isn’t going to work.  You have to influence their thinking by respectfully influencing them.  The tips that I am going to give you are things that you should discuss with your teen.  Notice I said, discuss, not lecture…

  1. 2.  If you haven’t done so already, you must let them know that you respect them as an adult and that you want them to trust you.  You want them to know that they can come to you with anything.  This is a safety issue because, most teens are afraid to go to their parents for help.  So predators capitalize on the fear of exposure and judgment so they can control their victims.  But parents, when they come to you make sure you don’t over react…

3.  Explain the importance of communication.  Let them know that you don’t want to control their lives or ruin their fun but you do want to know where they are going and some information about their friends.  This is important because if you ever had to trace their steps it would be easier and quicker. 

4.  Be sure that your teen has a working cell phone.  Even if you have to get a prepaid phone.  They may need this for an emergency. Help them understand the consequences of sexting and even though you will not be there to monitor their behavior misuse of the cell phone could create a safety issue.  There have been various stories about teens that send inappropriate pictures of themselves and draws the attention of predators.  Remind them that once pictures go online it is very hard to pull them back.

According to the US Department of Justice: 

  • Approximately 1 in 7 (13%) youth Internet users received unwanted sexual solicitations.

5.  Make sure you teen has money for emergencies.  It may be a challenge to explain that it is not pizza, pop, etc. money, but is for a “true” emergency

such as paying for a ride home after a party, medicine, etc.  Help them understand that you will not always be there to take care of them so you trust them to make the right decisions.

6.  If your son/daughter plans to live on campus, once you get the name of their roommate run a background check on them.  It may be difficult to get enough information about them to do this (especially if they are still under the age of 18) but if nothing else run it through the National Sex Offender Registry or do a general search.  See if they have a Facebook page, and look at their friends and their posts.  You might want to do this with any boyfriends or girlfriends as well.  This is important, your teens must understand that everyone they meet at school isn’t necessarily in school for the right reasons.  To ensure their safety they must do their research and proceed with caution when meeting new people. 

More statistics from the US Department of Justice: 

  • Teens 16 to 19 years of age were 3 1/2 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.10
  • Approximately 1 in 5 female high school students report being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.12

7.  Evaluate your son/daughter’s social networking pages to ensure that they are not giving away too much information.  For example, I don’t think it is wise to put your address on your profile, your school, or your schedule.  This type of information could be used for stalking. 

8.  Going to parties is a part of college life and they can have fun but remain safe.  Explain the negative effects of popular party drugs, such as ecstasy.  Share some real stories from teens about their experiences with these types of drugs.

  1. 9.  Empower your teenager to trust their gut instincts.  We are all born with a “sensor for danger”.  Help them understand that even if they think that other people will laugh at them or tease them, reacting to their gut feelings about a situation could save their lives.

10.  Seal the discussion by assuring them that you don’t want them to fearful and you want them to enjoy their new freedom but that you just want them to use sound judgment!

These are just example of things that you should discuss with your teen.  You can’t give them as safety tip for every situation but if you can change the way they think then they can apply the logic to any situation they face. 

Good Luck!

Additional Resources for Parents: 

Stop it Now:  http://gethelp.stopitnow.org/results/start

For more information purchase The Busy Woman’s Pocket Guide to Safety, www.thebusywomanspocketguide.com for $4.95. Or download it for $.99 on Amazon Kindle, Barnes and Noble Nook, or Google E-books or PCs.

Source: US Department of Justice:  http://www.nsopw.gov/Core/teens.aspx#teens

Police seek man in attempted bus stop abduction | detnews.com | The Detroit News

8 Mar

Police seek man in attempted bus stop abduction | detnews.com | The Detroit News.

In this story a man attempts to kidnap a child at a bus stop.  The girl got away by running and hiding behind a mound of snow.  First I would like to congratulate her parents for training her so well.  We as women must remember to stay safe but must also teach our children to be safe.  My mother taught me how to be safe and I continued to do research on the topic of personal safety when I got older, which is why I am so knowledgable about the subject.  If you have a child your should do the following:

1.  Teach them how to react to strangers that approach them.  Tell them to not only run away, but also to scream for “help” or “fire” in a loud voice, even if the person that approached them isn’t following them.  That way they are getting away and calling attention to themselves.

2.  Keep an open dialogue with your children on a daily basis to ensure they are telling you about people that make them uncomfortable, even if it is a family memeber.  Never tell them that their feelings are not valid, but try to understand the source of those feelings.

3.  Create a list of people they are allowed to trust when you are not around.  Sometime preditors will tell a child that you (parent) are in trouble and that you sent them to pick them up. 

4.  Purchase a personal alarm device for your child.  They usually rang from $10-$15.  Teach them how to use it.

5.  Make sure they know at least two emergency phone numbers. 

No one can fully prevent themselves or others from being victims of crime but we can try.